These words changed my life 9 years ago.
My life up until that day was on a continuous self-sabotage loop.
Although I was aware of the self-destructive behaviors, I did not understand why I repeated them over and over again despite 'changing' them.
It was like these would appear again just when I thought I had overcome them or resolved them.
Despite my efforts, that day I was able to understand that I had not really achieved true transformative and sustainable change.
In that moment, I had the audacity to take personal responsibility and recognize that if I kept doing the same thing, I was also choosing the same thing.
Self-sabotage is self-abuse.
It is a form of punishment and betrayal of oneself according to beliefs in the subconscious mind.
It is the inability to receive or allow the good in life.
They are deliberate actions, conscious or unconscious, to hinder progress, success or personal well-being.
These self-defeating and self-destructive behaviors are deeply rooted in subconscious limiting beliefs.
Some of these beliefs include:
- Fear of failure: Believing that any attempt will result in failure.
- Fear of success: Feeling and believing yourself unable to handle the expectations that come with success or how your life will change if you succeed.
- Limiting beliefs about money: Thinking and believing that you don't deserve to earn or have money.
- Fear of change: Fear that success brings with it unwanted changes.
- Identification with victim roles: Believing that one is destined to have a life of struggle, difficulty or suffering.
- Fear of responsibility: A negative and fearful perception of the idea of assuming commitments, tasks, duties and decisions that imply certain levels of burden or obligation.
- Low self-esteem: Believing that you do not deserve success, happiness, or ease.
- Extreme perfectionism: Having standards so high that any result that is not perfect is perceived as a failure.
- Severe self-criticism: Constant negative self-talk believing that you are not good enough to be successful or happy.
- Need to protect: The deep-rooted conviction that it is essential to take care of oneself both physically and emotionally.
- Insecurity: A persistent perception of vulnerability, whether physical, emotional or social.
- Need to control: Firm belief that having control over circumstances, situations, and even other people is essential to your well-being, safety, or success.
How do you know if there is a self-destructive belief?
Typically, there are recurring patterns of failure or stagnation.
If you notice that in certain areas of your life, such as relationships, career, health, money, among others, you tend to encounter similar obstacles or do not progress as expected, it could indicate the presence of limiting beliefs.
If you're ready to receive support and identify the self-destructive patterns and beliefs that limit your progress, success and well-being, I invite you to embark on a personal exploration and transformation journey.
In Lak'ech,
Blanca